Trainings, Consultation, Speaking

One of the most common things I hear from thoughtful, self-aware people is: "I understand why I do this. I just can't seem to stop."

This workshop explores the gap between understanding a pattern and actually changing it. We look at why insight matters, why it often is not enough on its own, and how old patterns live not only in our thoughts, but in our bodies, habits, relationships, and nervous systems.

Participants leave with a more compassionate understanding of why change can be so hard, especially when they have already done years of reflection, therapy, reading, or personal growth work.

ADHD is often talked about as a problem with attention, organization, or motivation. But many adults with ADHD are carrying something deeper: years of feeling like they cannot fully trust themselves.

This workshop explores how inconsistency, overwhelm, emotional intensity, time blindness, rejection sensitivity, and repeated criticism can shape an ADHD person's relationship with themself. We talk about why "try harder" rarely works, and what it can look like to rebuild self-trust through compassion, structure, nervous system awareness, and repair.

This topic can be adapted for ADHD adults, queer ADHD communities, clinicians, educators, or retreat participants.

People-pleasing can look generous, thoughtful, flexible, and easygoing from the outside. Internally, it often creates resentment, exhaustion, confusion, and a painful disconnection from desire.

This workshop explores why people-pleasing develops, why it can be so difficult to stop, and how self-abandonment can hide inside relationships, work, family roles, and identity. Participants are invited to begin noticing where their yes has stopped being honest, and what it might mean to build a more truthful relationship with themselves.

Authenticity is not just about being expressive or bold. Sometimes it begins much more quietly: noticing where you perform, shrink, overexplain, accommodate, or abandon yourself in order to belong.

This workshop explores authenticity as a practice of returning to yourself. We look at the fears that often come with being more honest, the grief of realizing how long you have been away from yourself, and the small choices that help people live with more integrity, connection, and inner steadiness.

For many LGBTQ+ people, identity development involves more than "coming out." It often involves unlearning years of self-editing, hiding, managing other people's comfort, or trying to become acceptable.

This workshop explores the relationship between queerness, belonging, self-abandonment, and return. It is especially suited for queer retreats, sapphic spaces, LGBTQ+ organizations, late-in-life coming out groups, and communities interested in the deeper emotional work of becoming more fully yourself.